I have a friend that recently began a Facebook "closed" group called The Last Wives Club. I love the idea and am grateful to be a part of it. Recently, I contributed the following:
Almost three weeks ago I had a running accident. One of my injuries continues to linger...I experienced serious "road rash" to three of my fingers on my left hand. The injury is extremely painful to the touch but the pinky injury is an eye sore. I tried to keep it covered but eventually had to remove the band aid. That is my hand where I wear my wedding ring. My beautiful, shiny wedding ring. The diamond shines bright and beautiful but I have to tell you, whenever I look up at my hand, my eye is immediately drawn to the ugly. The injury is ugly. It cut to the bone and healing is slow and painful. I have caught myself re-directing my focus long enough to see the beauty of the ring, but the "ugly" always wins.
I discovered that many times in marriage, we take our eyes off the beauty of what God brought together and we focus on the ugly. Perhaps we were injured, betrayed, didn't feel loved or respected. It is detrimental to keep going back to the past and wishing the injury had never taken place. Everytime I go there, I re-live the accident and feel the pain all over again. I might add that "when I go there" I linger....another detriment. We can not grow if we keep going back to it. Get off the ugly, look beyond it, put it behind you.
I know that can be difficult because like my fingers, you may have a constant reminder but if you don't get past the injury, you will never have healing. Even worse, the beauty of marriages stands before you and you will miss it if you keep going back to the ugly. Like my ring, marriage is beautiful and it was made to shine and glorify our Father...don't get distracted by a past injury or the ugly.
Forget the former things; do not dwell on the past...I am doing a new thing. Isaiah 43:18
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